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how universal of an experience is having the giving tree read to you as a small child and being distraught even tho the teacher seemed to think it was a nice story. also is this a gendered phenomenon. do girlchildren know on some level that they’re the tree not the little boy

Children designated as “gifted and talented” frequently melt down because of this story.  Boys and girls both. I’ve heard many G&T educators say they don’t bring The Giving Tree or The Rainbow Fish into their classrooms at all because of it.

Wow, what is it about gifted and talented kids that makes those stories hit them so hard?

Because those stories are innately about what to do with gifts and talents, and in the case of those particular books, children often interpret them as “give up all sense of self and bodily autonomy, and carve yourself to pieces to make other people like you.”

Here’s my friend unpacking The Rainbow Fish on the topic.

^ That last comment really succinctly illustrates 90% of my mental health issues.

Yesterday, I was in yet another deep spiral of self loathing, and the CORE of it stems from this very fucking message. If I’m not saying ‘yes’ to everyone, I’m selfish and mean. No one will love me if I say ‘no’.  If I’m not valuable to others, I’m worthless.  If I’m better than others at something, I can’t be proud of it, it would be rude.  Give give give give give.  I cannot make demands of others without feeling guilty.  I can’t speak my mind against others.  I freeze up.  I tumble into depression and dark thoughts to the point where I cannot function. I have the worst form of imposter syndrome: Am I a nice person?  I can’t be. A nice person would just suck it up and keep going.  Stop complaining.  This anger that you feel?  It’s wrong.  You have to forgive and shut up.  Their feelings mean more important than your own.  They said something terrible, it’s not their fault.  It can’t be.  They are stressed.  If you stand up for yourself you are just ignoring their pain.  You need to be the bigger person, even if it’s killing you.

The tree gives so much it destroys itself, and we as kids are taught that self-destructive behavior that solely benefits others is not just admirable–it’s correct.

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very-flirtatious-deatheater: thegreatsnapescape: enter-the-phantom: Some of my favourite moments...

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Some of my favourite moments from the day I spent at the library playing Snape for their Harry Potter event

•”The real Snape is taller than you!”

“Real Snape? Oh, you mean the muggle who played me in that film? His name was Alan. My name is not Alan, and I am sadly not 6’1”. Ten points from Gryffindor.”

•*to a little girl dressed as Hedwig complete with mask* “You’re that Potter brat’s owl, arent you? Hedwig, correct?”

“Yeah! You’re so mean to Harry! *pretends to peck at me my god she was adorable*

“See, I’d put you in detention for that, but regrettably you can’t put owls in detention. So I’ll put your mother in detention instead for raising such a disrespectful child.” *the mother cracked up at this*

•”Are you Professor Snape?”

“*long sigh* Regrettably.”

•I had a belt of potions bottles and a group of kids asked me what potions I had, so I actually gave an impromptu potions lesson. Some of the highlights included threatening to use Skele-Gro on a boy dressed as Harry who wouldn’t stop interrupting, and loudly complaining to their parents that I wouldn’t have had to waste time reteaching this lesson if their kids had paid attention the first time.

•Word got out that I actually had the dark mark on my arm so kids kept coming up to ask to see it. I made a big show of rolling my eyes and threatening them and then finally rolling up sleeve while flexing the tendons in my wrist to make the snake move. Made several kids scream. It was hilarious

There were a couple teenagers in a group with a Luna and her friend dressed as her rabbit patronus. I had a lot of fun with them giving her a hard time:

-“Lovegood. I know that name. Why do I—ah, yes, your father.”

“He writes for the Quibbler!”

“Indeed he does. Penned an article claiming Hogwarts had a vampire teaching there. Can’t imagine to whom he was referring.” *cue biggest laugh of the evening*

-“Lovegood, if you melt on more pewter cauldron—“

“They had dark magic in them! All pewter cauldrons do!” (She was really good)

“…you’re telling me every pewter cauldron was made by a dark wizard? He must have been extraordinarily busy” *dry tone*

“Yes, and it explains why you’re the way you are. Spent too much time with pewter cauldrons”

“…why am I still talking to you, Lovegood?”

•”Why arent you at Hogwarts?”

“Have you been outside, child? It’s summer.”

•*parents who wanted photos* “Can we get our picture/their picture with you?”

“…*sigh* Fine. *dramatic eye roll* You do know I’m the villain for like six and three-fourths of seven books, right?” (They found this hilarious)

•The classic, “I love your costume/great costume!” comments followed up with “…What costume?”

•There was a sorting station I helped back up for a bit and I had way too much fun loudly groaning and complaining when kids were put into Gryffindor.

•One little girl was put into Slytherin so I introduced myself to her and her dad and was all “You’d better make me proud. Although honestly after 14 years my expectations aren’t very high so that should be relatively easy.” Went over her head but the dad lost it

•*two rowdy little boys nearly putting each other’s eyes out with fake wands and in general causing dangerous commotion* “No duelling in the halls. Twenty points each from both your houses, and a week’s detentions.” (They straightened up immediately. Was proud.)

•There was a station where kids could make Pygmy puffs out of cotton balls and glue and one kid made an all black one and proudly presented it to me with “I tried to make it look grumpy”

That is spot on and so wonderful! Share you Snapeing secrets…

A wholesome post.

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Something Happening Somewhere

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Space Force: Trump 2020 asks supporters to vote on logo

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The Trump 2020 campaign thinks the Space Force can serve as a re-election fundraiser.
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The snark is strong with this article.

But seriously, this is a campaign marketing tool? The problem is that I believe a ton of people will buy into it.
srsly
9 days ago
This week has been a noisy one from the Trump administration, between space force and going after legal immigrants. When wrangling my emotions, I can either get angry or I can get to speculating. I think we got a big Mueller story right on the horizon.
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The Planes Left

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The Game of Life

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Foucault's Editor:
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I remember playing this game...
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